Not Quite Brangelina

The Hair Post! Rants, Raves, and mostly solicted advice

2011-07-19T14:52:00.001-05:00

Southern women are often the queens of unsolicited advice. But, since sooo many other Ethiopian mamas, Caribbean in-laws, and others with multi-racial cuties have asked, I have decided to make like a pizza boy & deliver what you crave!
The canvas: JG has soft corkscrew curls, with courser hair at the back of her head. It is pretty thin, and she still has baby hair around her forehead. I am not sure which ethnic group in Ethiopia she is from, and although she is supposedly from the Sidama region, her hair is most like the kids I've met from Addis Ababa (that is a WHOLE 'nother story). At about 20 months her head was shaved almost bald at the transition home, so we were pretty much working from a blank canvas when we arrived home with her at 22 months. Honestly, this was a blessing, because she was able to grow healthy hair from the start. If you are bringing home a toddler or baby, and their hair is patchy or destroyed due to malnutrition or skin problems, i would not feel guilty about cutting it. In Ethiopia, it is tradition to cut a child's hair 5 times before they turn 5, so you can use that as an excuse if you want. If you are adopting a baby, be prepared for the texture to change (usually, it gets courser). Also, if you live in extreme climates (like Canada or Houston), your child's hair may take a while to adjust to the new weather conditions.
The shampoo: Don't freak out, white people. What I'm about to say might shock you. We shampoo JG's hair once every other week. Or after we swim. Or if it gets dirty with peanut butter, jelly, or extreme goo. We like Organix coconut shampoo and conditioner.
The conditioner: With every bath we use conditioner. This is called "co-washing". I'm no scientist, and I'm not giving money back guarantees, but I have heard lots of people say that there is a little cleaning agent in conditioner...so if that helps you white gals sleep at night between shampoos, there ya go! I like Organix coconut, or I use my sulfate free conditioner from L'oreal. I finger comb the conditioner through the princess's hair, let it sit for about 2 minutes, then use the Tangle Teezer comb to work the conditioner through. If I have time (night time baths) then I put a shower cap on her head and let the conditioner sit for a while before rinsing. If I don't have time (morning showers or kitchen sink co-washes) I just rinse after the comb out.
The leave-in: After the wash or co-wash I use a leave-in conditioner. My favorite is the leave in conditioner from Mixed Chicks. I use a nickel size amount, spread through the hair, style hair the way I want it to lie, have her shake her hair out, and DO NOT TOUCH the hair again. Every time you touch curly hair it makes it more frizzy. You may also like Carol's Daughter's Hair Milk, which I find similar to Aveda's Be Curly. We have used both of these with success also.
The busy day: For super busy days I keep a spray bottle with 1/4 mixed chicks leave-in, and 3/4 water for dousing the princess's curls before leaving the house. I always comb her head wet. The tangle teezer is a time/tear saver. Get it at Sally's or on Amazon.com. Another idea is to skip the leave-in routine & use a natural boar bristle brush (Sally's) and brush out pigtails into little afro puffs or little buns. I use snag-free hair elastics that look plastic (Target and Walmart sell these).
The winter once-a-month//Swim days: We use coconut oil (amazon or whole foods) as a oil treatment before shampoos once a month during the winter, or after swimming. I put in on, comb it through, put a shower cap on the big girl, and leave it for 20 minutes. You can use olive oil instead, but I'm a Florida Pina Colada girl at heart. A little goes a long way: My hubby oiled up our sweet girl's hair one time as slick as a pig at the county fair, and I slid across our kitchen tile as stepped in the dripping coconut oil. I almost performed a triple axle. Rinse well too, or your kid will look like she's auditioning for The Sopranos.
The extras: We use a satin pillowcase to prevent hair breakage (Ebay) and we use a night cap, aptly named "Pretty Pretty Princess Nightcap". In order to get JG to wear it, I had to wear one for the first month at night (while we tucked her in) to convince her that this is what was normal. She's stubborn. I wonder who she gets that from? You can get a nightcap at Walmart, Walgreens, Sally's, or online. I like the look of the one shown on HappyGirlHair blog, which I am ordering ASAP. As she has gotten older I do 3-4 simple twists (not quite braids, not secured with elastic) before putting on the nightcap to prevent night time tangles which are THE WORST!
Summary/The Essentials: If I had a boy, or I wanted to focus on what was most important, i would choose: 1. Tangle Teezer comb 2. Leave-in conditioner.
I hope this helps!

It Remains to be Seen...

2010-12-16T14:54:00.001-06:00

When I see the little Ethiopian-born princess stomping across the church stage in her clumsy cow costume singing Joy to the World, while she grabs a stray toy axe, 3 feet from chopping the baby Jesus’s manger up, I just get to thinking…. About the little girl, who 2 Christmases ago was stuck in an orphanage, with a mound of paperwork and a wide, wide ocean separating her from our family. She didn’t know what was waiting for her. I see my own 29-year-old face, full of hope of what would one day be, but lined from the miles and worry that comes from taking little boys to and from autism therapy treatments and from feeling like your own womb has betrayed you. I didn’t know how God would would work, heal, and restore. I wonder about a specific soul I may never meet. I cannot imagine the brilliant face of the woman, or girl, who birthed my JG. Was she as bright, as tenacious of spirit, as stubborn, as funny? Did she have hope her baby would live? Or have a family who would treasure her?
When I get to wondering, I get to crying- crying over the words of “Joy to the World”. I see people rushing around in their fancy cars and tacky holiday sweaters, buying more loads of junk that their kids don’t need, that their sister-in-laws will roll their eyes over, and another tie that their stepdad won’t like, busy "makin' the yuletide gay." Christmas is about a baby. A baby who was a king, and hardly anyone knew or noticed. But for those who heard, and those who knew it was precious. They were people, waiting for a savior, and they saw him. He wasn’t what they may have expected; maybe their joy was not as complete as they hoped, because the Lord hadn’t come as a 30 year old conquering king, but as a baby. The “Joy to the World” kind of remains to be seen when you are sitting in a stable, surrounded by stinky animals, and the King of Glory is wrapped up in swaddling clothes. They didn’t know it, but Easter was coming.
I am happy when I see my baby girl prancing across the stage and shouting out the words to “Jesus Loves Me” like she’s auditioning to be the next Beyonce. But part of the Joy to the World remains to be seen….and that is the day I’m waiting for…where the glories of His righteousness are revealed in full, faith is made sight, and every tear is wiped away.
No more let sins and sorrows grow, Nor thorns infest the ground; He comes to make His blessings flow Far as the curse is found, Far as the curse is found, Far as, far as, the curse is found.
He rules the world with truth and grace, And makes the nations prove the glories of His righteousness, And wonders of His love, And wonders of His love, And wonders, wonders, of His love.
I wish you friends, a very Merry Christmas and much joy in the New Year!

A Washington, Oregon, & Florida Thanksgiving with Georgia on My Mind

2010-12-04T20:46:00.002-06:00

We have been DTE (dossier to Ethiopia) for 3 months now. We are currently #21 for a baby girl, and #9 for a toddler. We have been visiting relatives all over the nation & homeschooling like mad trying to beat the clock to be finished with 1st & 3rd grades before new baby comes home… and speaking of “new baby” we officially announced her name to family while on vacation: Georgia! Her name had to be sweet, classic, and southern…like me, of course. It is one part George Mueller, one part sweet tea. Perfection.

Eyes as blue as the Atlantic

Enjoy the pix of our vacation & I even have a little 3-Month-DTEversary gift for you….

Vacation Hindsight Being 20/20:

Cousin Capers

1. If you walk into your aunt’s house and the first thing you notice is the kitchen smoke detector’s battery is missing, that should be the first clue that you should start praying for take-out Chinese.

2. If your family has more drama than Susan Lucci during sweeps week, expect tears, a surprise family member to show up to events, & learning a deep dark secret. Take it all in stride, not counting the potential cost of therapy needed, but instead consider possible book deals awaiting you in the future.

3. When your cousin says, “ I made yours light on the pina, heavy on the colada”, perhaps you should clarify exactly what that means.

4. When the same cousin says “get out the video camera, we totally rocked that song on karaoke!” perhaps you should consider the ramifications to your self esteem after becoming an overnight Youtube sensation.

5. Karaoke is enlightening b/c you realize that you have been singing the wrong lyrics for about 20 years. BTW: “latigo” is the leather strap used to adjust the saddle’s girth on a horse. In slightly related news: after a month of eating your way across America don’t be surprised if your “horse” needs to loosen his/her “latigo” quite a few notches, if you catch my drift.

6. Don’t allow your beautiful & talented cousin to dye your hair the day before you take Christmas card pictures. Everyone makes mistakes sometimes.

3 Mouseketeers

7. When you travel cross-country with 3 beautifully mismatched children, people will stare because they wonder if you are crazy, a kidnapper, or perhaps a celebrity nanny.

8. Next fundraiser idea:: take pledges for a Potty-a-thon : if I had a dollar for every time my 3 year old begged to use a public restroom, I could have saved myself the many hours of filling out grant applications.

i think we are starting to look alike!?

One Monthiversary on the Waiting List!

2010-10-06T17:06:00.000-05:00

It has been one month since our precious paperwork flew across the pond to Ethiopia. Being wild and crazy as DH and I are, we celebrated by eating takeout from PoBoy express, opening up the windows to enjoy the nice fall Louisiana weather, filling out adoption grant applications, and then having intense allergy attacks resulting in sinus infections.
While I'm feeling reminiscent (maybe it's the cold, maybe it's the paper-pregnancy hormones, maybe it's the homeschool mom's dry erase markers)...here's where we were a long time ago, on our DTE One Monthiversary waiting for Jane-Grace...you know back when we only went through three boxes of cereal in a week, and I could still pick up middle child without making a strange grunting sound.

Last Day to Order Show Hope Shirts!!!!

2010-09-29T09:14:00.001-05:00

*******Order has been placed. Still want a shirt? That's great! I will place my next order in about a month...or as soon as I have 12 shirt orders. THANKS TO EVERYONE WHO ORDERED!!! You helped us raise $500 to bring home our next princess & also helped fund Show Hope in their amazing orphan care ministry! ***Do you love Steven Curtis Chapman, know every word to his songs, and wave at the "Franklin, TN" highway sign as you pass by, sighing that your hair will just never stick up in the right places like SCC? Well, friend, your sighing days are over! You can look like Steven Curtis for only $30 (or at least own a replica of his shirt).
We are selling Show Hope shirts to help bring home our next Ethiopian cutie! Here's how it works: 1. Pay for a shirt ($30 adult/ $25 kids). Half the $$ goes to help our adoption, half to Show Hope (win/win). I will place the order as soon as i reach 24 shirts (hopefully the end of September). 2. You wear your shirt proudly while you lip-sync to "The Great Adventure"!

Red, Chocolate, Smoke, Blue "I Show Hope": S, M, L, XL, 2X, 3X
White long-sleeved Tree Tee (Women slim fit): S, M, L, XL, 2XL
I Dig Show Hope (Women slim fit): S, M, L, XL, 2XL
I Dig Show Hope Youth: YXS(4/6), YS(6/8), YM(8/10), YL(10/12), YXL(14/16)
Black Tree Tee: S, M, L, XL, 2XL
Violet I *heart* Show Hope (Women slim fit): S, M, L, XL
Violet I *heart* Show Hope Child: 6months, 12 months, 18 months, 2T, 3T, 4T
Please specify shirt size and style in the paypal message and thanks for your order!! (Locals can write a check)

Prudence, Mercy, and Risk

2010-09-27T10:25:00.000-05:00

More than one person has said to me, "You can't possibly want to adopt a child older than an infant! Think of the psychological damage, the bonding issues!" In light of that fear, this is a good read by Dr RDM: "Is the orphan my neighbor?"

Junk Posse Necklace Giveaway

2010-09-24T08:35:00.000-05:00

Admit it. You troll Etsy or blogstalk innocent people 2000 miles from your home, looking for cool adoption/ Africa (or Guatemala or China...) fundraiser stuff. It's ok. I'm here to help! Into the Streets of Ethiopia is doing a giveaway of a beautiful swirly Africa necklace! Check it out!! If you don't win...you can buy it on Etsy. What a wonderful way to celebrate finally turning in that adoption application, being DTE (hint, hint, Dear Hubby), getting your referral, or the anniversary of gotcha day.... I happen to know that Into the Streets is an amazing organization. DH is on the board and our church supports and prays for the orphans & street kids that N2TS (that's the street lingo, get with it, sista) helps:)

Look Who's 3!!!!!!!

2010-09-15T08:49:00.000-05:00

Keepin' busy, nesting, and more adoption fundraisers than you can shake a stick at....

2010-09-13T18:01:00.001-05:00

During the paperchase, I took sewing lessons to revive my childhood skillz...and Beignet Baby was formed to help us fundraise for our second adoption. Then, because my hubby's teenage dream was to be the drummer for SCC, and because Show Hope is amazing (and became a part of our first adoption story), we started our T-shirt fundraiser. We have also have had 5 days of garage sales. Just to keep us busy, our youth are doing an Adoption fundraiser carwash in 2 weeks. And our lovely kickboxing-photog-youth pastor's wife is doing a photography shoot fundraiser for our Princess Peach in October. Wow. Here's some pix of the dresses I've made lately. If you call me and I don't pick up by the 3rd ring, maybe now you know why!

Look Like Steven Curtis Chapman for only 30 Bucks!

2010-09-08T21:20:00.000-05:00

We are selling Show Hope shirts to help bring home our next Ethiopian cutie! Here's how it works: 1. Pay for a shirt ($30 adult/ $25 kids). Half the $$ goes to help our adoption, half to Show Hope (win/win). I will place the order as soon as i reach 24 shirts (hopefully the end of September). 2. You wear your shirt proudly while you lip-sync to "The Great Adventure"!

The race is on! The Dossier has left the building....

2010-08-29T21:17:00.000-05:00

Dossier is pronounced "doss-ee-ay" or "doss-ee-air" in southern dialect. noun. a collection of papers containing detailed information about a particular person or subject. In adoption this is the mound of paperwork collected in a crazed manner by the paper-pregnant mama or papa. Sometimes the dossier is hollered at, sung too, prayed over, or protected like an endangered species at an NRA convention. It took a self-proclaimed "expert" over six months to collect, even though we had done it once before. We are relieved that it is off to America World Adoption Association, it officially secures our place on the waiting list, and our paperwork will have to meet some final checks and be certified by good ole Hilary before it can be sent off to Ethiopia for translation & court. We should be matched with a child/children sometime between December and June. Our official request is one to two girls between 3- 40 months. So, no matter what...trust me, we'll be surprised!

Prayers of a Teenage Me (& their replies)

2010-08-15T16:28:00.004-05:00

As the 5th anniversary of my 29th birthday is right around the corner, I have been walking down memory lane. We continue to wait, oh-so-patiently, for our I171h to come in the mail so that we can ship off our paperwork to adopt princess #2...and I thought you might enjoy where i was 17 years ago in my prayer life...

Dear God, your will be done. Use me for your glory. Dominion belongs to the LORD and he rules over the nations. They will proclaim his righteousness to a people yet unborn— for he has done it.” (Psalm 22) I, the LORD, am a shield around you. I will bestow glory on you & lift up your head. (based on Psalm 3)
Please, never EVER ask me to home school when I get old. Even to your old age and gray hairs I am he, I am he who will sustain you. I have made you and I will carry you; I will sustain you and I will rescue you. Isaiah 46:4 (just not from homeschooling)
Help me get into law school (Duke would be awesome)…just think of the tithe! Does the LORD delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices as much as in obeying the voice of the LORD ? To obey is better than sacrifice…(1 Samuel 15:22)
Help your gospel to go forth, but please don’t send me anywhere in the world without air conditioning, especially Africa… and Miami (even if it does have air conditioning). For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. (Ephesians 2:10) Praise to the Lord, who over all things so wondrously reigneth, shelters thee under his wings, yea, so gently sustaineth! Hast thou not seen how thy desires ever have been granted in what he ordaineth? (Praise to the Lord, the Almighty hymn translated by Catherine Winkworth)
Please, if I must marry a preacher, at least let him be rich (or have rich parents). Every animal of the forest is mine, and the cattle on a thousand hills. I know every bird in the mountains, and the creatures of the field are mine…for the world is mine, and all that is in it. (Psalm 50)
Give me a husband just like my friend Dean, just whiter, and taller. The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart. (1 Samuel 16:7) Tan is good & give away your high heels.
Dear God, I just scored a negative 3 in “mercy” on a Spiritual Gifts Inventory! (I told you I should have been a lawyer!) How is that even possible, anyways? Am I still saved? Please teach me to show mercy, as I have been shown mercy. A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling. (Psalm 68:5) Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. (Luke 6:38)

Some people just won't "get it"

2010-08-03T13:48:00.000-05:00

Adoption is not a one-week mission trip where you come back with a tiny buzz & a cool machete & a few tales of danger or the sadness of poverty. It is the redeeming of a LIFE, forever changed. It costs you more than money: it costs all the days of your lifetime, hard work, tears, sometimes reputation, family, or friends. “A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows is God in his holy dwelling. God sets the lonely in families.” It is guts and glory. Wait for the glory.

Beautiful Brylie!

2010-06-19T17:25:00.001-05:00

Brylie is one of my favorite 10 year olds in the entire world. She is an example to so many kids that look up to her and she is simply adored by my JG! Check out Brylie wearing a Baby Beignet dress!

Fathers Day & Into the Streets of Ethiopia

2010-06-02T09:30:00.001-05:00

Do you need a Father's Day card that does more than just sit there on the shelf? My friend, Alisa, is making cards to send to the special men in your life...and 100% of your donation will go to Into the Streets of Ethiopia! What a wonderful way to celebrate Dad!!! Click on either link to order yours today:)

Pakistani Princesses in Waiting

2010-05-07T13:05:00.002-05:00

Our family's seminary BFFs are adopting through a pilot program for Pakistan. They have received the referral for two sisters, ages 3 and 6, and will travel in a few short months. Not only have our friends, the Laggs, cheered us on as we adopted our first daughter from Ethiopia, but they supported us financially, donated stuff for our various fundraisers, and babysat our 2 boys after we were in complete despair after failing court during our wait to bring JG home forever. They lack the essential funding to bring home their girls. They have until Father's Day to collect money which will help them receive a matching grant. Please, this Mother's Day and Father's Day, consider these two sweet fatherless girls in a foreign land, and consider giving to bring Lydia and Joanna home.

Donations (tax-deductable) can be sent to: La Croix Church, 10734 Hillshire Avenue, Baton Rouge, LA 70810. Attach a note "Lagg Adoption"

First "Beignet Baby" Dress

2010-05-05T16:02:00.005-05:00

I am dusting off my sewing skills from childhood & middle school home ec to create a new super-cute business to help fund our second adoption. I will post more pix of my creations later, and we should have fabric samples and a way to order online by June!

And Baby is 2!

2009-09-19T21:24:00.001-05:00

JG celebrated her 2nd birthday right around our 2 month anniversary of being home from Ethiopia. Mommy got a new camera- enjoy!

Princess, Pirates, and Pest Control

2009-08-27T11:28:00.001-05:00

Princess: JG trying on her birthday outfit:) she squealed when i pulled it out of the box and cried when i made her take it off...she is ALL girly-girl!
Pirates: DH finished the new playground and the boys love it!!
Pest control: 24 hours after our 2nd lice treatment we ALL got a 6 hour hot-oil hair treatment:)

1 month home

2009-08-14T11:14:00.001-05:00

We moved at week 3, and have been home a month now. JG has gained 2 lbs! Our pediatrician is pleased as punch with how she's doing. She wanted to wait until JG's 2 year old visit to see how speech is going then...she's saying a few words but her comprehension is improving. I've ordered her 2nd birthday outfit (i know you can't wait to see it in September)...and have taken the plunge with Carol's Daughter hair products, but we also like the Mixed Chicks leave on conditioner. I've ordered our stuff for home school and it should arrive in time for me to look it over for a few weeks before we start. our house is still not ready for school to start and we have a few more projects to complete before then...so for now the kids are playing well together besides for a few bites, a few "JG, i simply won't tolerate you biting my legos", a few lice (yes, seriously, as if i didn't have enough to do), and a few DOZEN loads of laundry...that is my month in summary.

Climbing the walls

2009-08-04T09:33:00.001-05:00

So our "across town" move is complete, well except for the pesky boxes sitting there, laughing mockingly at me. Our church family was such a blessing in help with packing, moving, cleaning, and cooking! I had a little incident (trip & fall) where my face met the concrete in our brand-new driveway. My face looked so scary after i got home from the ER (5 stitches, possibly broken nose, skull ok, scratches etc) that T would not kiss me goodnight saying, "i don't want to get too disgusting before going to sleep." Wow, thanks.

Our life in pictures

2009-07-23T09:15:00.001-05:00

We have been a forever family for 2 weeks now. I have attached photos of Addis Ababa, the day we met JG, and a picture of my 3 wild kiddos together. I think JG is bonding well to us and although she has been sick a few times I am sure we are giving her immune system a workout! New/First things: She loves to eat meat now, and fruit. She has had beignets and jambalaya and LOVES them both. We are transitioning from formula to milk but we are taking it slowly b/c of tummy issues. She is my constant companion...CONSTANT. We are hoping that once we are in the new house and she becomes comfortable that she will feel safe enough to be happy and play without me in her constant sight/hand's reach. Table manners have been a battle and we have just started to go to battle with sleep issues for the sake of mommy's sanity and back. She has stopped crying for her nannies when she is angry and now cries for "daddy-AHHHHHHH!" Did i mention our girl has a Queen-of-Sheba-sized temper? Tarin says that she thinks she could easily be my biological child:) JG definitely recognizes and answers her name now, can throw something in the trash, loves to clean up her toys and organize them in a very type-A way, loves to smooch Topher, loves chase and looking in the mirror, trying on clothes and shoes, oh, and she likes coffee. She is understanding English better and better, but still loves to sing/babble in Amheric (although truth be told, she could be reciting some kind of political treatise or classic poetry for all i know).

Hindsight 20/20- Ethiopia in Review-Arrival Day & Yesabi

2009-07-19T09:14:00.001-05:00

I've just had to give up on making this flowery since i'm so busy with our new-and-bigger family, the stomach bug that keeps on biting, and the move to the ole DS. I am still processing alot of what i saw and experienced in Ethiopia, so this will be kind of a nuts-and-bolts posts from a been-there-done-that to help my fellow sojourners in Ethiopian adoption.
Sunday- Arrival day:
THE AIRPORT::You may want to exchange some money at the airport. Or you can get David (the AW driver-Et name Dawit) to do it for you. If you allow someone to help you with your luggage you need to tip them. They are very persistant, and they will take American money, so you could tip them with that if you don't want to change money at the airport. We chose to wait inside the airport until all of our AW families had found their bags, and ready to leave. Trust me, you do NOT want to be stuck out in the van with 20 guys fighting to be the one to help with your luggage for 20 minutes. We felt safer than we expected the entire time in Ethiopia, but the poverty is overwhelming if you have not traveled to a "developing" country
before.
YESABI GUEST HOUSE:: We settled in to the Yesabi Guest House and found it very pleasant. The staff is wonderful, facilities VERY clean, and whoa that cook is awesome! DH and i actually weighed the exact same thing (down to the ounce) the day we got home as the day we left:) We NEVER got sick. They change your towels out every day (you get 2 big and 2 hand towels). We brought a washcloth and baby towel from home. They do make your beds and there is a safe in every room. We never figured out how to redo the code on the safe, so we just took the key with us everywhere. BTW: we actually forgot the key one day and left the safe open w/ about 500$ and our cameras in it & when we got back everything was still there. so, it is safe to say that the maids had a lot of integrity.
Good to eat: At Breakfast: the omelets, the pinapple juice, coffee, croissants, donuts. if you eat the cheese, peel/cut off the outside. This is a good time to take your motion sickness pill. Take it. Seriously. It also helped me with the nausea from the smells of smog/car exhaust, and altitude. This is my #1 recommended med for Addis. I handed them out like Tic Tacs to others in my travel group.
At Dinner: There may be one or two options. They are bound to be good. The fried fish was the BEST i have ever had...and i am a Floridian living in Louisiana! If there would have been cheese grits i would have thought i was in heaven! Chef's tomato sauce is so fragrant and delicious...ahhhh! It is on pasta, on chicken, or rice. The portions are some nights a little smaller than some men would like, but we did just fine sharing with JG once we had her. The toddlers & older kids will try to gorge themselves, so prepare yourself for that. I also found that whatever was on our plates somehow mysteriously looked better than what was on JG's plate, so if you have a picky eater you might want to try that angle.
Electricity: You will most likely have electricity every-other-day. We once went 3 days straight with none. They turn on the generator every night, and while cooking. This is when we would run downstairs with Dean's iphone and post to Facebook. The iphone was our key to American communication. It is possible to call home, but it was too painful for me to think of hearing my boys' voice. It is possible to use your laptops, but after we had JG we just collapsed at around 8.30 and did not even try. The internet connection is slow if you have regular electricity. If the generator is on then it runs even slower. Also, when the generator comes on for breakfast, boil your water in your hotpot. You can use this to sterilize bottles, or to mix with the cold water to wash your face/hair in the sink. I took MANY cold showers...Dean took many hot because he is the early bird. We were lucky enough to be in room 103 (first floor). If you are in one of the higher floors i hope you are ready to be winded...that is where you will notice the altitude. There are BEAUTIFUL views (about 300 degrees?) from the rooftop. Great for the camcorder.
Random on Yesabi:: they give you 2 small bottled waters a day. You also have a minibar with cokes/sprite/fanta (shout out to Britney y'all!) and beer and sm/med/lg water. YOU MUST DRINK LOTS OF WATER for altitude! You can get wine by the bottle from downstairs. A doctor traveling with us claimed that the alcohol helped kill the buggies, and most of the group was happy to accept his Rx:) Be careful though w/ the interactions with your drugs (Ambien for example). After we got J-G on wednesday we no longer needed sleep aid and were adjusted pretty well. Earplugs are a must for the nightclub nearby. You should save around 100$/1200 birr for the last day to settle accounts on Friday. Our food/drink bill for 2 adults was 750 birr & we tipped the staff on top of that, as well as the 2 drivers for the week (200 birr/each. A US 20$ would also work if you were out of birr). You will not be able to change back your birr to US dollars, so be careful with that. But if you have extra you could use it for luggage tips at the airport, or gifts for Robel's street kids/ministry.

We are home and alive!

2009-07-16T12:55:00.001-05:00

Yes, we are home. Yes, we are alive. But 4/5 of us have had (or have now) what we are hoping is just a stomach virus. DH & I had cipro left from our around-the-world adventure and are taking it just to be safe. So, sorry about the lack of pictues and i hope you understand that i may be a little distracted to answer the phone. JG is adjusting well and we have had some funny little situations that i can't wait to tell my bloggy friends about...but for now i need to get back to Lysol-ing the house.

Daddy's girl:)

2009-07-06T16:22:00.000-05:00

Meeting JG....Our Ethiopian Monday

2009-07-06T16:13:00.001-05:00

Our Ethiopian Monday in bullet points:
Not much sleep, the Ambien has not worked well.
No electricity=no hot water=hairy legs.
Paperwork party- I made LOTS of mistakes, and had to borrow an extra
form from almost everyone. My nerves were shot!
Lunch at Lucy Bar & Grill. Beautiful! I had pizza and DH had
curried Lamb/rice. No, not a typo. The food was great.
Driving to the Transition home everyone was so nervous!! There were 2
families adopting their first child, 3 families adopting siblings, and
4 adopting one child, like us. We were videoing the city and the
other van passed us and everyone was yelling out the window like crazy
at us. Our van-full was laughing and egging them on with cameras
rolling. When we saw the men with big machine guns we got a clue that
we were NOT supposed to be videoing in front of that area. Whoops!
The 9 families met their children in alphabetical order (we were
second). But, everyone was boohooing after the first family met their
baby boy for the first time.
We could hear what we hoped was not JG crying at the top of
her lungs from inside. They tried for several minutes to calm her
down, but to no avail (Gracie's gotta have her beauty sleep like
mommy!). We met her and it was scary, peaceful, exciting, and
beautiful all at the same time. I had to take pix for another family
and passed her off to Dean who was able to calm her down. After about
45 minutes she did warm up to us. She loved the cherrios/apple snack
we brought and the elmo phone ("mo-blay"). Funny that one of the few
words she knows is for cell phone. Coincidence? She loved the pix of
the boys, and I think she said "bubby" when she pointed to JP.
We watched her eat spaghetti and drink from a cup, and after she was
cleaned up she held her hands out to go to us. She even looked at
DH and said "abba!" The kids call all of the nannies mommy, so we
are going to have to work on that. She seemed affectionate with the
nannies and would kiss them on the cheek. She held our hand and
showed us around her yard and we played a little soccer with her
(Barry, she's gonna be awesome!). She gave us good eye contact toward
the end, and she can walk down stairs pretty confidently, holding our
hand. She also pointed for things and hand-led us…like to sit down or
show us flowers. She loved watching the older kids played and enjoyed
a sucker. She is teething. She seems healthier than we expected, and
bigger too. At the end she would rest her body on ours so that she
seemed relaxed with us, and when we had to take her back and said "
bye bye!" she cried. It was hard to walk away (as fast as possible),
but we felt satisfied knowing that she felt attached to us enough to
be sad, and that tomorrow we will have her forever.
The girls got massages and manicures while the guys relaxed at the
guest house. Nice!
We enjoyed a traditional Ethiopian meal complete with: feeding one
another (it's tradition!), wonderful music and dancing (including me
and 2 other moms in our group), coffee and popcorn.
There is more to say, and not enough word about what we have experienced so far.
Random: The children in the TH are beautiful. There were definitely
some big babies and I could hear the school aged kids learning. There
are some amazing kids there! I recognized the Korson's oldest
daughter and Ava. Kara- she is stunning. You will be blown away when
you see her in person. I look forward to taking pix for all our 4
families tomorrow.
I need sleep. Love to JP and T!!!!! We miss you so much!

We made it to Ethiopia!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2009-07-05T07:08:00.001-05:00

We are at the guest house. DH slept like a baby last night, me, not so much. i got slightly confused because DH's iphone tricked me into utter confusion, and i got up, got totally ready, and then wondered why our wake up call didn't work...uh, cause it was 5 PM in baton rouge, but i thought it was 5 AM in dubai (it was 1 am). I won't make that mistake again!! The hotel that Emirates puts you in has comfy beds, and pretty good food...it is confusing trying to get your hotel vouchers, but we'll know better when we return in a few days. Business class was AWESOME! on the way from Dubai. Hot towels, blueberry crepes (Hi Topher!), comfy sleep masks and seats that totally recline. I was totally relaxing with Norah Jones the whole time:) There was a man seated behind us whose laugh totally reminded me of Grandpa D! Which also made me think of JP...and made me miss his amazing belly laugh. The guest house is nice and we have met the pritchetts, the dragoviches and jacksons and T our AWAA driver/guide. We have not totally unpacked yet, and it still seems unreal that we are here, and that we will hold JG for the first time tomorrow!

Not Long Now!!

2009-07-04T21:59:00.000-05:00

We are at the gate in Dubai and waiting to board our final flight into Addis. Emirates has been great to fly on,and we got bumped up to business class. Please keep up your prayers. Love you boys!!!

Houston to Dubai

2009-07-03T17:27:00.000-05:00

We are about to board our long flight from houston to dubai. love to my boys!
Comments on the emirates flight: A.Maz.ing!!!! movies. food was good! things i would do differently: 1. they fed us dinner right away but we had already taken Ambien to try to adjust to Dubai time...whoops! 2. Always wear shoes to the bathroom. Enough said. 3. Make sure you have your earplugs for the plane OR tune into the CD that is "sleep music". i didn't figure this out until later. Overall, it was not nearly as bad as i thought it would be.

Packed and Ready!!!!!

2009-07-02T15:00:00.001-05:00

So, it's been 23 months since we applied to America World to adopt. Wow, how time flies- NOT! We're not quite ready to leave our boys behind and not quite ready to board a plane for 2 1/2 days, but we are more than ready to bring JG home. I posted the following one day before we recieved our referral:
Ten things I want you to know: (for our JG)
1. You were loved before we met you, before we saw your sweet face and there is nothing you can do that will make us love you less.
2. Yes, I have received children out of my natural body…and I love them with an astonishingly strong love. I have birthed you with no less tears, no less longing, and no less joy.
3. Adoption was not a second-choice for us. We had this purposed in our hearts from long ago…you, my dear, are the answer to a fourteen year old girl’s prayer.
4. I will say it again. You were not our second choice. You are the princess that your daddy slayed dragons and fought for.
5. Sometimes you will feel lonely and sad for your birth-family and land, and that is okay. We are happy to listen, cry with you, and dry your tears. Your sadness will not break you, and it will not break us either.
6. We will never give you up. We will never give you away. Never. Even if you beg us.
7. Your skin may not look like mine, or daddy’s, or your brothers’….it is the most perfect shade of brown! You were painted by an artist who is more brilliant than Monet. You are an impression of your Father’s glory.
8. Your mommy & daddy are not perfect. I eat anchovies on my pizza, and daddy’s feet stink. We do not expect you to be perfect either.
9. I pray that you will live a life full of joy, full of love, full of faith. Life may not go as you would have planned, but I hope that you can sing along to the melody of God’s song for you.
10. We want to see your face soon. We want to hold you close, gaze into your eyes, to smell your hair, to see you smile. We will wait patiently.
Wow, these words seem ever-more real now. Bye bayou-I'm off to cooler weather!
Follow fellow-travelers at grace-adonedeal.blogspot.com & teamdragovich.blogspot.com.

testing

2009-06-25T17:58:00.000-05:00

I know how my YG friends LOVE to blogstalk, so while in ET we will try to email posts to our blog. I will not be able to read my comments until after we return home. We are also hoping to use twitter, but we still need to sign up for an account. I will post when we get it done.

City mice moving to the country...and wild geese

2009-06-23T15:04:00.001-05:00

So, we are moving the country! We made an offer on a house, and with a little wheeling and dealing, we now are about 6 weeks away from closing on our new house, closer to the church. Before Africa (leaving in 10 days), we have to finish the inspection and all our loan documents...blah! I have now washed all of JG's clothes, and am starting to pack. Our doctor does NOT want to prescribe us any meds for scabies, so if there is anyone out there who has leftover scabies cream, i would gladly accept the donation! Everyone is asking about the boys: yes, they are excited about JG coming. yes, they are a little jealous. yes, they are excited about the move, but they are also sad to be moving away from their "cousins", the Laggs. As my friend Kari says, we are "chasing the wild goose."

In the last week...

2009-06-19T15:12:00.000-05:00

we have finally passed court. booked plane tickets to ethiopia. babysitter w/ a blackbelt booked tickets to the Rouge. gotten a purchase agreement on our house that has been on the market for 11 1/2 months. taught & done drama for VBS at our church. started packing. swimming. Rave movie festival. and gone WAY over limit on my cell phone charges. seriously, it's crazy here!!

Let the Angels Rejoice!!!!!! and little boys too!!!!

2009-06-16T10:14:00.000-05:00

Make an on-line slide show at www.OneTrueMedia.com

Court tonight

2009-06-15T09:18:00.000-05:00

Here's hoping that 3rd time's the charm!

Coles are heading home!

2009-06-12T09:47:00.000-05:00

Right about now the Coles, our adoption friends from Natchez, are checking in at the Addis airport to fly home with their son Alexander! We plan to meet them at the Baton Rouge airport tomorrow night @ 8 pm. I will try to post a picture after that. Our agency has let us know that they are still needing a few peices to come together before we can expect a successful court tuesday. Optimism is not flowing in our household and unfortunately, there is no epidural for the pains of adoption. I think that going to meet the Coles will be good for us, to remind us that there will be an end to this. One day it will be us getting off a small plane, covered in formula and who-knows-what-else with crazy hair and tired eyes, but filled with joy, holding our girl.

New TTDs

2009-06-05T16:21:00.000-05:00

We received our new tentative travel dates today. If we pass court on June 16, then we hope to leave the first weekend in July and be gone a week. We have tickets on hold with Susan Parr Travel, and our travel dates will be confirmed by Friday, 19th if we pass. I'm pretty sure Susan is tired of holding tickets and cancelling tickets for us over and over...so that makes one more person hoping that third time's the charm! There are alot of other AWAA families with court within a week of us, so we should have a good travel group if all goes well!
PS. if you are a burglar with evil intentions our house will not be empty..and our babysitter is a black belt in Taequondo!

The Audacity to Hope

2009-06-02T08:21:00.000-05:00

Two weeks to our third court date. I am once again prepared for the worst. But inside me lurks the audacity to hope. Perhaps it is because I have seen God work in the past and i trust Him for the future. Perhaps it's because dean and i have recently been on a low-carb, low-fat diet and a 5 day running/biking exercize plan and we said we'd order Pizza Hut the night we pass court.....Romans 5:
1Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, 2through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we rejoice in the hope of the glory of God. 3Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; 4perseverance, character; and character, hope. 5And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us.

"Read my lips..."

2009-05-28T14:54:00.000-05:00

No. New. Court Date. Got an email response from our agency that pretty much dashed our hopes of moving the date up a little. Some people say "it could be worse", as if that should be a comfort. We are not the only ones in this positon (think: misery loves company?) I know there are people "on hold" right now and my heart goes out to them...and i feel kind of guilty complaining. But, seriously "it could be worse"? (Job, Paging Job, we have found one of your lost friends...) Another favorite is "it is always darkest before the dawn." Which I'm pretty sure is just simply not true. It is always darkest right before it goes pitch black, right? Trust me...i will be ok, but just to make me laugh what are your "favorite" crazy words of "encouragement"/expressions? It will help me while we wait...and wait...

Drink for a good cause!

2009-05-28T08:17:00.000-05:00

That's one way to get Louisiana's attention...I'm talking about COFFEE!!!! An AWAA Ethiopia adoptive family in the restaurant biz has started an awesome way to support your adoption (or someone's you know & love). There is no upfront cost to the adoptive family, and each family has it's own page attached to the fair-trade coffee website. Check out this awesome opportunity at http://www.onelovecoffees.com/Site/Home.html.

Are Baptists the New Brangelina?

2009-05-23T15:00:00.000-05:00

This year in Louisville, KY Southern Baptists will have a chance to vote on something more meaningful than Mickey Mouse at the convention....
http://www.russellmoore.com/2009/05/19/on-adoption-and-orphan-care-a-proposed-resolution/
If you attend a Southern Baptist church please encourage your messengers to vote "YES" to the adoption & orphan care resolution!!

Joy to the Heart & my new 2nd grader!

2009-05-21T14:34:00.001-05:00

Today was the last day of first grade for my sweet potato. Here is an excerpt of his teacher's comments from his report card: "In the following verse i am reminded of JP and his enthusiasm for all things good and right. 'The precepts of the Lord are right, giving joy to the heart. The commands of the Lord are radiant, giving light to the eyes.' Psalm 19.8. He works with whatever he does with all of his heart..." He is reading at a third grade, fifth month level and finished in the top 15% in the US on the Presidential Fitness test for pull-ups. Yes, i know I'm bragging:)
On the adoption front, we notarized a new and improved power of attorney this morning, got it authenticated at the Secretary of State's office and FedEx'd it overnight express to AWAA. I'm sure i looked crazy this morning wearing my faded Florida State shirt from 1996 (literally) and a "don't mess with me" look in my eyes. Everyone was so friendly. Hmmmm... So we wait again. Try to hope again. (Hope we don't curse again.) We're trying to enjoy today, and rejoice in the bright-eyed strong boys playing in the next room.

If you can't say something nice....

2009-05-20T13:43:00.000-05:00

come sit next to me. Just kidding. We didn't pass. Our next try is June 16th. That's all i'm going to say about that.

Court Take 2

2009-05-19T08:21:00.001-05:00

Tonight, while we sleep MOWA will write our letter and we will go to court again for our sweet JG. Please pray with us for her release to be adopted. If we pass then she is officially our daughter and we will travel soon to bring her home! If not, then we wait. Also going to court tomorrow for their kiddos are the Coles (2nd time, friends of ours from Natchez), the Gillmans, Stacklers, Dragoviches, Francos, Gagnons, and Keiderling family. Imagine what an awesome travel group we would have!

Too much time on my hands

2009-05-16T19:08:00.000-05:00

this is the blog of our family at home from ethiopia...

Raining Cats & Dogs (and Mice too!)

2009-05-15T09:12:00.001-05:00

Well, today is another graduation at Southern Seminary in Louisville and I'm feeling nostalgic...Seven years ago, on a rainy May day, the campus was in full swing with Trustees in town, professors in their academic robes and tasseled hats, and me, hard at work in Campus Information and Guest Relations. Then, it got really exciting. My water broke. When i asked to leave early, my boss actually said, "Are you sure? The Trustees are in town!" OMG. Seriously. OK, moving on....I called DH to come and get me, and according to my cousin, Matt (who was there when DH got the call), he was in complete shock. While I waited for DH, people came in and out of the big doors of Honeycutt, with their umbrellas in tow. I will never forget what happened next...Dr. Cox walked by, looked at me, and said, "WOW! It really is coming down out there!". Realizing that he was alluding to my, er, drenched appearance, all i could do was smile and say, "it sure is!" with alot of enthusiasm. I decided that maybe i should wait outside for a bit to make sure the soaked look i was now sporting was a little more uniform. So begun one of the most meaningful days of my life. My baby, will be 7 in just a few days. How would i have known then that pain of labor would not compare to the heartbreak of an autism diagnosis? How would i know that the joy of seeing him for the first time would not compare to the joy of him hugging me tightly and not shrinking back? As i look at my tall boy who sports the most amazing dimples, i wonder, "am i even the same person i was 7 years ago?"...standing there soaked with the promise of motherhood, laughing nervously, waiting for our green Honda civic to come into view? The forcast calls for rain this weekend...a perfect day to snuggle on the couch and watch Tom & Jerry for the hundredth time and thank God for His goodness to me.

Sick day and Songs of Joy

2009-05-13T14:14:00.001-05:00

My boys are both home today (JP is sick)…and were playing, packing up their Lighting McQueen suitcases to go on an adventure. They were packing hurriedly, even shoving the just-folded clothes into their luggage which of course, drove me crazy. Fast forward through the mom-gets-angry part to the part where they arrive at their journey. I overhear one say, “Wow! We’re finally here…in Ethiopia, Africa!” My ears perk up. I listen while they pretend to talk to their sister, telling her “We are proud of you, JG for waiting so patiently.” My tears start to flow, thinking of how impatient I feel, how sad and how angry I am that we failed court Monday, and that she is not coming home in May. They continue to play, handing her a Dunham pom-pom, books that JP wrote for school (where Tom & Jerry go to a haunted house and pray to God when they are scared. Yes I realize how funny this is.), and their favorite George and Martha book. I go into the laundry room to collect myself…ironic, mainly because the laundry room is so chaotic it is that place one should try to clear their head. I hear T say, “I think I will sing her a lullaby.” (Read my last post.) Then he changes his mind saying, “oh. She doesn’t need one.” I come out from the laundry room and argue with him that she does, in fact, need a lullaby. I glance at the clock reading 12.45…realizing it is almost 9 pm in Addis and she is probably in bed. My heart is sad…T again says, “Mom, she does NOT need a lullaby.” It strikes me not as him being obstinate (at it normally would from my son, so much like me), but instantly I think, “isn’t there a verse about God singing over us”? I found it in Zephaniah 3.17:
"Do not fear;
Zion, let not your hands be weak.
17 The LORD your God in your midst,
The Mighty One, will save;
He will rejoice over you with gladness,
He will quiet you with His love,
He will rejoice over you with singing.”
18 “ I will gather those who sorrow over the appointed assembly,
Who are among you,
To whom its reproach is a burden.
19 Behold, at that time
I will deal with all who afflict you;
I will save the lame,
And gather those who were driven out;
I will appoint them for praise and fame
In every land where they were put to shame.
20 At that time I will bring you back,
Even at the time I gather you;
For I will give you fame and praise
Among all the peoples of the earth,
When I return your captives before your eyes,”
Says the LORD."
So we wait until next week to hear of our second court date. Maybe longer. But while we wait, we can imagine a melody so sweet being sung over us and our sweet girl. Sleep tight, Gracie!

Not today...

2009-05-11T09:17:00.001-05:00

Today's court did not go our way. We did get an explanation...but because of trying to keep JG's particular situation private (it is her story to tell) i cannot share much. We did hear that our new court date is May 20th...and that our agency thinks it is about 50/50...Anna said we need to pray that MOWA writes their recommendation letter in the way that accepts the documentation we have. I trust that our sweet girl is safe, and I pray that she is rocked to sleep tonight with a song of hope and deliverance.

Sarah's Laugh Echoes

2009-05-06T08:53:00.000-05:00

In five more nights, our case will be heard in Ethiopia. I've been thinking ALOT lately about Abraham and Sarah. It is an amazing thing, after all this time, to be standing on the shore of faith, looking at the sand...and trusting that one grain stands for our sweet girl. What was it like for Sarah, and old woman, to feel a baby moving around inside of her, or to feel the beginning of labor pains? I can hear her laugh echo in my mind. A laugh of faith mingled with doubt, at the irony of LIFE coming from her almost dead body. But, also in that laugh, i hear hope. I am laughing today. Not unusual for me. Laughing with joy that i stand so close to the fulfillment of a dream....laughing that even though i doubt the stars in the sky and sands on the shore conspire together to preach to me, "HOPE"! 5 more nights...please pray and hope with us.

Update from Ethiopia

2009-05-01T15:49:00.001-05:00

We recieved our first update on JG today. It included her new height, weight (she's still tiny), and some general info. The highlights: she is "VERY FUNNY", likes to eat pasta, and has a nanny & friends she is attatched to from her previous orphanage. I saw no hints of chicken pox (it's going around like crazy there) in her pictures...I am not sure if that is good or bad (will she be coming down with them right when we get there?). I needed this today...to see her face. I can't wait to SEE her face.

2 weeks until court

2009-04-27T08:59:00.000-05:00

in 2 weeks we will hear the outcome of our court date. if i'm this excited now...how crazy will i be in 2 weeks? maybe it will be a good night to try out the sleep meds before the trip:)

Semlows passed!

2009-04-23T14:08:00.000-05:00

our YG friends the Semlow passed court today for their 3 little ones! (Yes, i said 3) They have had a HARD LONG journey for their kiddos (have had their referral for 7 months and went to court 4 times at least. They will meet their children for the first time the day of our court hearing...in 2 1/2 weeks. If we pass we will be on ETHIOPIAN soil in one month. One month. One month!

3 more weeks!

2009-04-20T09:39:00.001-05:00

3 weeks until we hear the verdict of our first court date (May 11). If we pass then we should be able to travel May 23-30. if not, then we get a new court date...and wait. I got an email from kim kulp (mountain view blog) with some pictures of our sweet girl (kim was in Ethiopia picking up her new son)...JG was wearing a purple (Geaux Tigers) shirt with the word "miracle" on it...just made me smile:) Here is what Kim said, "So, my thoughts of JG...she's SO STINKING SWEET we could barely stand it! I had to wake her up to take pictures of her, that's why she was a little groggy. She is shy but took my hand and toddled with me to the grass to sit and play. I gave her balloons, stickers, kisses and hugs and tried my best to get her to smile but she really didn't want to give a smile to me! I loved on her and changed her shirt, she looks so sweet in purple! Her hair is very soft and has sweet little curls. She loved the hair bow I made her as well. She's a girly girl! She is still learning to walk down stairs and over things and she has the sweetest little bow-legged toddle I've ever seen. Really, if we could have, we would have taken her home with us. She's a joy girl if I have ever seen one." Thanks Kim! Just thought i'd mention that i think she also looks a little like the macdonald women (Dean's mom's side of the family)...and she has dean's eyebrows. and she's shy like me. hahahahaha!

News from Ethiopia!

2009-04-15T09:14:00.001-05:00

My YG friend, Kim (blog link is below right:Mountainview) is in Addis now picking up her Micah Moo and posted a special message just for me on her blog:
"LA Jaime- (JG) is shy and just learning to walk. She has the softest hair and the sweetest grin but I only saw a few and couldn't get them on camera. She waddled around holding my hand for the longest time. She loves to play with toys and is very quick to let anyone who gets near them know that they are invading her territory. If I could have, I would have taken her home with me!"
Woooohoooo! There are only 3 more Sundays until our court date (this is how i have counted during the adoption...for some reason it makes it seem shorter)...please pray that all the necessary documents will arrive when/where they are supposed to. About 30% of people with our agency do not pass the first time...although i have heard it is MUCH higher with some other agencies...let's hope we're in the 70% that do pass:)

TTDs are here!

2009-04-06T09:55:00.000-05:00

Well, we have recieved our tentative travel dates! If we pass court May 11th (about 30-40% do not pass their first try) then we will leave Louisiana May 22 or 23 and arrive home on the 30th! We are thinking of flying Emirates out of Houston into Dubai, and then into Addis. Leave a comment if you have done this before!! We may also fly out of DC, either on Ethiopia air or Emirates... We haven't gotten our price quotes yet so we are bracing ourselves! hehehe!

Amanda's April Fool's

2009-04-02T10:13:00.000-05:00

Happy April Fool's Day to my cousin Bean (Amanda)! Check it out! https://post.craigslist.org/manage/1102688311/6872u
HaHaHaHaHa!

You say "bite", I say "lick"

2009-03-31T08:00:00.001-05:00

OK, so i thought that title might grab your attention! Being the YG and blog-stalker that i am i decided to contact the Halls since they were in ET the week we got our referral. I wanted ANY info i could get on our little JG, especially regarding personality, because that is not mentioned in the referral. Well, be careful what you ask for!! Here are some quotes from Stephanie: "We referred to her as "Biter" while we were there because she was walking around with her mouth open and biting our legs. Not hard, just in play, and she is SO ADORABLE! You will LOVE her! I told Marc you had the biter and he died laughing, too. We loved her, she was so adorably cute. I guess she bit him five or six times, he says, but not hard enough to hurt or anything. And she was just so happy!!" (Yeah, sure, happy to bite him!)
Take 2, this time i armed my friend from YG, Alisa, with a photo release...and she delivered a care package from us to our JG (photo album of the family, small doll, outfit, and sunglasses). Last night we were OVERJOYED to receive the pix from the Martins...here are some of Alisa's comments :"Your girl is so sweet & has so much personality! I knew who she was right away b/c Steph told me about her...she called her the licker. Hee Hee! As soon as I came inside with Micah she came to love on us both...and licked us. Don't worry -- it wasn't weird, I think she thinks she's kissing. Very sweet! She LOVED her baby!!! She kissed the pics oh her new family!!!! She looked at all your pics with me!!"
Well, whether our girl is a licker or a biter, we are indescribably happy!

48 nights until our Court Date!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2009-03-23T15:52:00.000-05:00

We recieved our court date today: May 11. The night of May 10th (Mother's Day) as we are sleeping an Ethiopian court decides whether or not to release our little girl to her forever family. Pray with me that we have success! I am guessing we would travel to Ethiopia June 6-13, but i will find out our official tentative travel dates in a few weeks from AWAA (our agency).
Seven Mothers' Days ago i was 37 1/2 weeks pregnant, and i was talking with Maria, a friend from our church, who (with her husband Russ) had accepted the referral for their 2 Russian sons, but were still waiting for final word that they could bring them home forever. We rejoiced that the next Mother's Day we would have our boys with us at last! It has been a long journey to our adoption dream...and it seems fitting that our dream could finally come true on that special day.
ps. check out the now DR Moore's blog...henryinstitute.org...there are alot of cool articles about adoption:)

HeeHaw Auction @ New Covenant

2009-03-21T12:50:00.001-05:00

Our church, New Covenant, put on a hum-dinger of a country auction last night to benefit our adoption. The total amount raised was just over $5000, enough to cover our 2 round-trip tickets from BTR/MSY to Ethiopia, JG's one-way ticket home (yeah!), our visas and US Embassy fee, and our home study update. Items were donated from members of NC & the community....including quilts, LSU picnic blanket/ tailgate mats, paintings, a football autographed by 2 Heisman winners, babysitting services, dinners, fishing trip package, massage gift certificates and serenades by Elvis & BB King. Yeeeehaw!

We Choose You!

2009-03-11T11:06:00.001-05:00

First thing this morning we signed the Referral Acceptance Letter, and the check, as they say, "is in the mail". You can see how happy DH was...sorry no picture of me signing since i was in my pajamas- complete with "Get R Dun UW" tshirt (classy, I know). Next up: AWAA is able to request our court date in Ethiopia. We should find out our court date in about 3 weeks. So, we wait...hey, we're pretty good at that!
1 John 3:1 is what is in my mind today, "How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called the children of God! And that is what we are!" How great.

Referral Day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2009-03-10T15:17:00.001-05:00

Today seemed like an ordinary day. Big boy went to school like usual. T and I went to the consignment shop to drop off the double jogging stroller (in great condition...hmmm..who's kidding who here?)...and we were headed to buy crawfish for dinner. I was on the phone with DH, rejoicing that the consignment store had accepted all our goods (meaning: more $$ for girlie baby stuff) and I passed up the Starbucks, wanting a Frap soooo bad, but decided to skip it (partly because of Dave Ramsey and partly to wait until we had a referral to celebrate). Toby Mac "made to love you" playing on the radio, and Terra calls...I knew. I kept shouting "its 703!" to DH and then hung up on him. I recognized Terra's voice and I pulled into a bank and was just weeping in the car while Terra connected dean to the call. We don't have tinted windows on our minivan so there were some nervous people in the parking lot of the Chase Bank. I think they were worried that I had snapped because of the economy and that I might do something rash. he he! We cannot tell you much about her, as we want to respect Ethiopia's laws but: she is an older baby/ young toddler...and she is beautiful. She looks very delicate and small (kind of like my T) and has a pouty mouth and the cutest tiny pigtails:))) funny: my youngest son things she looks like kai-lan...the little Chinese girl from the Noggin show ni hao kai-lan... the boys were most impressed with her hair and thought she was cute. She looks like a JG. Sometimes the most ordinary days can be extraordinary.

Ten things for JG

2009-03-09T08:07:00.001-05:00

We have made it to our Tenth Monthiversary of our dossier traveling across the sea to Ethiopia. It sits in an office somewhere in Addis Ababa, hopefully near the top of the stack...waiting... So, i was going to write a funny (or at least i thought so) Top 10 List of reasons why i BETTER get a referral this month...but i thought better of it when i realized i sounded like a selfish kid, believing that the world revolves around me. So, instead i decided to post 10 things i want JG to know...things I hope she can look back on to remember the time we were waiting for her.
Ten things I want you to know: (for our JG)
1. You were loved before we met you, before we saw your sweet face and there is nothing you can do that will make us love you less.
2. Yes, I have received children out of my natural body…and I love them with an astonishingly strong love. I have birthed you with no less tears, no less longing, and no less joy.
3. Adoption was not a second-choice for us. We had this purposed in our hearts from long ago…you, my dear, are the answer to a fourteen year old girl’s prayer.
4. I will say it again. You were not our second choice. You are the princess that your daddy slayed dragons and fought for.
5. Sometimes you will feel lonely and sad for your birth-family and land, and that is okay. We are happy to listen, cry with you, and dry your tears. Your sadness will not break you, and it will not break us either.
6. We will never give you up. We will never give you away. Never. Even if you beg us.
7. Your skin may not look like mine, or daddy’s, or your brothers’….it is the most perfect shade of brown! You were painted by an artist who is more brilliant than Monet. You are an impression of your Father’s glory.
8. Your mommy & daddy are not perfect. I eat anchovies on my pizza, and daddy’s feet stink. We do not expect you to be perfect either.
9. I pray that you will live a life full of joy, full of love, full of faith. Life may not go as you would have planned, but I hope that you can sing along to the melody of God’s song for you.
10. We want to see your face soon. We want to hold you close, gaze into your eyes, to smell your hair, to see you smile. We will wait patiently.

Court date shuffle!

2009-03-03T09:04:00.000-06:00

Well, things are moving for a lot of Ethiopia families with referrals! Most people are recieving court dates 3 months after their referrals, but many of the families with April court dates got news yesterday that their NEW court dates were in March!!!
This court-shuffle effects us because if we recieve our referral April 9th (the longest wait ESTIMATED), then it is now likely that our court date will fall before court closures (beginning of August until beginning of October). Good news for us!
To summarize for my peeps that do not speak Adoption-ese:
DTE: the date paperwork travels to Ethiopia. this determines your place "in line".
Referral: you are matched with a child- you find out their age & see their picture for the first time.
Court: happens in Ethiopia without us...it has been taking about 3 months after referral, but is starting to move a little faster:)
Travel: about 2-3 weeks after a successful court date. We will be in Ethiopia for about 1 week.

Fat Tuesday Points to Ponder

2009-02-24T09:19:00.000-06:00

So, since it's Mardi Gras, i thought i would share the wealth of my info on cajun slang:
"boude": to pout, or be mad.
"envie": a craving.
"possede": a bad, naughty kid, (it comes from the word for possessed).
"pass a slap"/"watch the slap": i'm going to slap you!
"The mouse": the cajun version of the tooth fairy is a mouse:)
check out more at: http://www.geocities.com/Athens/Agora/5949/Help/cajun1.html#A
Yes, we are still waiting! No, no word! And while jambalaya is on the menu for tonight, I'm actually trying to diet, since my boys started asking if the only baby coming was the one from Ethiopia:) Possedes!!!!!

Pass the Fanta, Britney!

2009-02-18T08:16:00.001-06:00

We are # 4 in the girl line!!!! I am thinking March will be our month.... so i celebrated by buying a crib skirt from Pottery Barn Kids (on clearance, of course). I thought i would never say these words...but i am worried that JG's room may have too much pink. Nah, momentary lapse of judgement!

9 Monthiversary of DTE and "You might be adopting if"...

2009-02-09T07:51:00.000-06:00

Well, on our 9th Monthiversary of our DTE (we are now within our expected wait time of 9-11 months), I have decided to put my AWAA Yahoo group addiction to some good and do something fun!!!
You might be Adopting from Ethiopia if….
You have a blog.
Most people who read your blog are also adoptive parents.
Your family has been compared to Brad and Angelina’s by people you don’t really know.
You have considered getting an epidural for dossier preparation.
You have ever yelled at a USCIS worker.
You have ever asked your Senator to yell at a USCIS worker.
You spend more time on Yahoo Group than watching TV.
You think a NAG is a good thing.
You are starting to use acronymns for everything (ET, YG, NAG, DTE, TTD, DH, BTDT, RR).
You have Kari’s phone #, and you’re not afraid to use it!
You can tear up in church at the CCLI words at the bottom of the screen because they read “Billy/Cindy Foote”.
You email Pete when you have computer problems as if he is your personal Tech Support.
You consider Steven Curtis Chapman like a long lost member of your family.
You know your exact # in line (well, OF COURSE not counting mystery families).
You say the words “mystery families” with a growl as if they have personally done you some bodily harm.
You have ever called a forty-something woman a granny to her face and she considered it a complement.
You have a lot of Facebook friends that you have never met…but you have written encouragement on their pages, and cheered them on as they’ve brought their babies home.
You kind of enjoyed getting your shots, because it meant you were one step closer to Africa.
You, at all times, are able to calculate the time in Addis Ababa.
You enjoy telling people that you are “18 months pregnant” and complaining of back aches.
You have pregnancy cravings which your hubby indulges.
People are starting to insist you write a book about your adoption experience: possibly because you have learned so much, possibly because they want you to stop talking to THEM about it, and possibly so your book can fund your next adoption and you will stop sending out fundraising letters.
You would rather see the area code "703" show up on your caller ID than oil flowing out of your backyard. (HINT HINT Terra...please call me soon!)
You have more Adoption fundraiser T-shirts than you have underwear.

9 Months!!! We are #5ish in the girl line, and by this time next month we could have our referral!!!

Happy Birthday Hotcakes

2009-01-31T18:03:00.001-06:00

Yippee for T's 5th Birthay....YOU, my dear, are just what I always wanted for my whole entire life!

25 things random things you may or may not want to know about me

2009-01-29T16:15:00.001-06:00

i am a crazed facebook junkie! my hubby thought these were funny...so here ya go...25 random things about me:
(1) I played in a kazoo marching band in a parade in Gatlinburg. It was televised. I breathed in the wax paper and started to choke, but I kept up the marching formation. (See #20)
(2)I’m allergic to everything in nature.
(3)Until I had my first child the sight of breastfeeding could make me throw up.
(4)My hubby and I met while I was scheming to woo someone else. He was supposed to help. I guess DH got the last laugh.
(5)I have a lot of things I love. A lot of things I hate. But almost never will you hear me say, “I don’t care…I don’t have an opinion.”
(6)I hate cheerleading, but ALOT of my dearest friends are ex-cheerleaders.
(7) I hate Miami, especially the airport, but I go every year because I am a great wife (and daughter-in-law).
(8) I smoked for about 4 months in high school just to prove i could do something "bad" and not get caught by my mom. Sometimes having a high IQ does not make you smart.
(9) I hate & am scared of clowns, but was in a BSU clown ministry in college. My name was Petals.
(10) I have wanted to adopt since I was 14 and if I had $100 for every time someone compared our family to Brangelina I would be able to pay to adopt another child. Literally. (That’s my fundraiser idea for next time…Brangelinathon)
(11) I have a cousin who is also my brother in law. Yes, I’ve lived in Kentucky.
(12) While pregnant with my oldest, I actually said to my hubby “I hope I love the baby like I love (my cat)”. Duh.
(13) In the love category: Epidurals. They are awesome.
(14) I have had grey hair since I was 16. I’ve heard I give a lot of grey hair too!
(15) Nancy Grace: love her! Guilty until proven innocent.
(16) I didn’t know about the OJ Simpson thing (1st time) until at least one year AFTERward. People asked if I was living under a rock. I replied, “Yes. It’s called Graceville, FL.”
(17) I know all the words to every Maroon 5 song.
(18) When Dean calls my cell phone it rings with Justin’s “Sexy Back”. Always a hit with the playgroup ladies.
(19) I have learned that autism is NOT the worst thing that can happen to your family.
(20) I’m a great boy mom because “suck it up- no whining!” has always been my philosophy. Also “laugh at every available opportunity.”
(21) The security guards at my high school thought I was a substitute teacher…I wanted to park my car in the teachers lot. Hey, it was only my whole senior year.
(22) Despite my craziness, I have 2 friends with babies named after me.
(23) I’ve always wanted to live in the Northeast…I love Fall!
(24) There is nothing sweeter to me than my hubby’s kisses, JP’s laugh, and my T’s sweet face.
(25) I am selling a house. Do you want to buy it?
I would love to hear more facts about you, friends!

Chinese New Year, College, and Guts

2009-01-25T14:29:00.001-06:00

Happy Chinese New Year, Y'all! On the long ride to church yesterday my boys were discussing why college is the worst "grade" to be in...the reasons given were "colorful". First, college is hard. Second, after college you have to get married. JP informed T that then a girl would want to kiss him all the time..."yuck!" T added to the story that then you had to go to the hospital, where they would sew your belly back together to keep your guts from hanging out. Dean and I were laughing in the front seats, figuring out that Topher was trying to explain the trials of childbirth. There are harder ways to get a baby. My adoption dream started sometime around age 14. I wanted to adopt from China. When the doors to China closed for us a few years ago I was crushed. But just like the little boy who one day says "yuck!" to a kiss from a girl will, in a few years,be introducing us to his future wife, we too, celebrate our change in direction. We are now #7 for a baby girl from Ethiopia...and #1 for a toddler....so we continue to wait for the phone to ring (Area code 407) and feel like our guts are ripping out, but in a happy way!

Happy Birthday Hubby!

2009-01-20T12:46:00.001-06:00

Well, my man is 35. Wooohooo! Happy Birthday DH!

PF Changs and Prophesy?

2009-01-14T08:01:00.001-06:00

Here is my tale of yesterday:: After a wonderful morning of visiting my friend Tammy and her new baby boy at the hospital (squishy cheeks and super cute!), Jeanie (our pastor's wife) and T and I headed to PF Changs for lunch. I enjoyed the "big girl" conversation and T enjoyed his usual...chocolate milk and complaining of no PB&J. After lunch we opened our fortunes. I read T his which said, "Good news of long-awaited event will arrive soon." I smiled and T announced to the waiter, "that is talking about my baby sister in Ethiopia!" I was proud of him that although his birthday is in 2 weeks, that this was the good news he was thinking about. It seems that all our hearts are in a state of advent. We are now #8 for a baby girl under 18 months and #1 for a toddler....but for now we will just enjoy the gentle reminders that God is in control and he is bringing her home to us soon!

A Merry Ethiopian Christmas & 8 Months DTE

2009-01-07T08:21:00.000-06:00

Since Ethiopia is on the Julian calendar, today i can wish you a "Happy Christmas"! This week also marks 8 months since we sent our dossier (huge stack of documents which took almost 6 months to compile) over the atlantic ocean to Ethiopia (with a little help from our friends from FedEx). We are now aproximately #9 in line for an infant girl referral, but we are the first one in that line willing to accept an up- to-36 months-old. So, we are not sure whether to be expecting a little baby or a toddler...so the anticipation does kind of feel like Christmas!

Back to School and High Compliments

2009-01-05T19:48:00.001-06:00

Well, thank goodness my new years resolution didn't have to last too long...the Bowmans and Luncefords received referrals for infant girls today! That makes us somewhere around #10 in the girl line for those of you keeping score. It has made our long wait seem shorter being busy with the house on the market and both boys home for the last few weeks. Today, of course, school started back after the long Christmas break. I interrupted a meeting of sorts this morning where John Peter bequeathed the remote control to T, complete with an explanation of the "mute" button, as if he were going off to war and not to a private school for Baton Rouge's finest. But, (file this under the "Just Bragging") last night I think i was paid the highest compliment of my life. We were tucking in the boys as usual and i gave JP his usual tight squeeze goodnight hug and he said, "i like your hugs, Mommy, they make me feel...like 'home'." I think I'm raising a poet.

2009-The Year of the Adoption Roller Coaster

2009-01-01T09:30:00.000-06:00

I was born in the year of the dragon (according to my chinese friends it is a very lucky thing:) but 2009 is the year of the ox. I'm renaming it the year of the adoption roller-coaster. Sometimes i feel excited, sometimes scared, but mostly like i want to puke with not knowing what to expect, and when to expect it. The wait for referral has officially increased to 9-11 months for baby and toddler girls(from DTE-our paperwork left for ethiopia on 5-9-08). So, in a sign of solidarity (and my unofficial New Years Resolution) I will not shave my legs until Karen Bowman (DTE Feb 1) gets her referral!!! (Lucky Dean)

We've finally mastered our video camera!!

2008-12-26T16:08:00.000-06:00

Grandma is still here. She has folded about 7 loads of laundry and done a few dishes, in between cleaning, she still finds time to be a Mouseketeer. Finally, we've figured out how to post videos....check out a Christmas morning video!

Baby Name Revealed and Merry Christmas!

2008-12-25T06:30:00.001-06:00

drumroll please.... **!

J means "God is gracious" and is our way of honoring DH's Auntie Janet. Grace because we have been captured by God's good grace to us...and we always dreamed of having a little girl we'd call "Gracie". A is to honor both of our mothers (both middle names A) and our dear aunt/uncle/cousins/bro-in-law (long story...) with the last name L. BTW: the name A means something like "grace in the valley" which i think is rather appropriate since my favorite Bible passage is Psalm 23. DH loves to say that her name means "grace upon grace upon grace"...which to him is the summary of the gospel. So, no longer does our daughter, whose face remains mysterious to us, have to be called "our new baby girl". We can call her by name. Let the monogramming begin! Merry Christmas to you all!

Remembering Christmas-Past

2008-12-24T14:28:00.001-06:00

Welcome to our house...just wanted to show you snapshots of our Christmas memories. We appreciate receiving all of your cards, and your children are so beautiful! It puts a smile on my face to remember all of the places we have been, and the friends and family we love so dearly. It made me so happy to receive pictures from members of my AWAA family, some with kiddos already home forever from Ethiopia (a glace at our Christmas future!). As I glance at the ornaments and family pictures of our Christmas's, I can't wait for next Christmas to see girlie ornaments on the kids' tree and a new family picture!

Yummy Christmas Cookies

2008-12-22T14:20:00.001-06:00

My mom is here. I am keeping her busy with the obligatory laundry folding & cookie baking. The chocolate chip cookies for DH did not turn out well, but the boys had a blast making the sugar cookies! And for those interested, we plan to announce the baby name we have chosen on Christmas day!

Christmas Miracle--SNOW in Louisiana!!!

2008-12-11T08:09:00.002-06:00

We've been up since 5.30am this morning, when DH discovered it was snowing and woke everyone up! We've played in the snow, made 1/2 a snowman, taken pictures (sorry no digital-no batteries), drank hot chocolate, eaten candy canes in front of the fireplace and watched "A Charlie Brown Christmas". The boys were yelling across the fence to the neighbor's boys "Its a Christmas Miracle!!"

My little man...and Proverbs 31

2008-12-10T16:29:00.001-06:00

Here's how a homework-time conversation played-out at our house last night...T was moaning about how being a little brother is hard. JP argues that being a big brother is much harder, because of its additional responsibilities. I think to myself, what terrible chores do these boys do? Are they fetching water from the well? Are they cleaning out piggy stalls? (No.) I remind JP that being a big brother has it's priviledges as well...first to drive a car, go to college, have a girlfriend... He replies, "MOM, God had already blessed me with that!" "Oh, yes, "L"! She is a blessing!", i say, trying not to laugh... then he says, "Yes! A woman who loves the Lord is HARD to find!" True, true...especially for a first-grader. And then i think...does this mean i should start losing weight to fit into my mother-of-the groom dress? UH-OH!

7 Month Anniversary of DTE

2008-12-09T09:44:00.001-06:00

7 months ago, our package of documents left DC to Ethiopia. When the man at FedEx asked if we wanted to insure the package, and how much it was worth, i said, "Well about 6 months and $10,000. you better not lose it!". DH apologized and tried to explain to the bewildered fellow about the adoption, and that his dear wife is the one who has "lost it". This period of waiting has made me a little crazy, a little pensive, and very hungry for treats. I have been contemplating what the day of our referral will be like, what meeting her will be like, and what i should say to her when i meet our little girl for the first time. how do you explain the kind of love that we already have for her? it reminds me of jeremiah 31.3: "i have loved you with an everlasting love". it is as if a strong wind, flowing over the continent, over the ocean that divides us, has whispered into our ear, into our heart her name, the sound of her breathing, her cry, the smell of her hair, the feel of her eyelashes against our cheek while she sleeps. "i have loved you with an everlasting love." one day we will see her, and the pain of waiting will be over. but for today, we are still waiting and hoping that that day will come quickly. (at least we have the sounds of little boys pretending to burp to distract us.)

Thanksgiving--City Mice travel to the Country

2008-11-28T11:53:00.001-06:00

Howdy! We were so thrilled to be invited to the Kemp farm to celebrate Thanksgiving with LOTS of our church family! We took our Zyrtec & Claritin & rounded up the mice for lots of new Louisiana adventures. We ate tons of food, went on a hay ride that was kind of like Space Mountain (lots of dips and turns in darkness), climbed mountains of sand, had 4-wheeler rides, rode horses, learned to "rope", climbed trees, and bounced on a trampoline with NO net. Minus our sinus headaches today, there were no injuries. We had a wonderful time, and JP even begged us to spend the night...but Mommy loves her king-sized bed:( I am thankful this Thanksgiving that God's ways are higher than our ways...he leads us by still waters and restores our soul. I am thankful for how our family has been embraced by our new church family. I have enjoyed our life as a family of four, but i am VERY thankful that before next Thanksgiving we will be a party of 5!

Christmas Picture REJECTS

2008-11-25T07:55:00.000-06:00

So, just because i'm weird, i thought i would post 2 pictures that did NOT get selected for our family Christmas card. I would love to hear your suggestions for the caption. The top one i thought looked like "Instead of the 12 Days of Christmas, we will be having Mom's 12 Days of Cream-of-Unusual Casseroles". The bottom one is just the boys attempt at smiling.

Imaginary Friends and Pretend Cousins

2008-11-23T15:20:00.001-06:00

Yes, i know this is our adoption blog...but i just had to post about T's many imaginary friends and cousins. First introduced to our family was Jake. Jake is a fun-loving imaginary friend of T's who is an "expert at trains" and has a Nana that feeds the boys all sorts of cupcakes, cookies and sweets. Jake also has a "intendo" and his Nana lets them play video games all day long. We've pretty much figured out that "Jake" is T's "Paris Hilton"/ spoiled kid with the "perfect" life. Second, last week T said, "Don't ya know" with a really Sarah Palin/Canadian-like accent. (T also does a great heavy Southern & British & French accent) When asked where he heard such a thing, he simply said, "from Fran". I can honestly say I cannot think of a single Fran, or where he even heard the name...so i asked, "WHO???" He explained that Fran was his cousin. She is a girl. She is a squirrel. Yes. So not only does Christopher have an uncle (Matt) that is also his second cousin (my cousin who married DH's sister), he also has a cousin who is a Canadian squirrel. Third, today I learned about Frank. I foolishly thought he may be related to Fran (due to the similarity of their names), but again, i was wrong. Frank is a human pumpkin farmer, who apparently has fallen on bad times, because he has to go to Albertsons to buy his pumpkins. On a happy note he does play the banjo often, which T and Jake witnessed on their field trip. I am in awe of T's great story-telling ability, and JP enjoys it now too. He used to yell "LIAR" whenever Jake's name was mentioned, but now we have a wink system, which is accompanied with a very condescending, "that's nice, Nibbles" from big brother "Jerry".

Louisiana Saturday Night

2008-11-16T16:18:00.001-06:00

I can hear the Alabama song still in my head... We went to Tiger Stadium last night for the boys' 1st college football game (thanks Russells!). T drank 1 1/2 large hot chocolates and admired the tubas the whole time. JP soaked it all up--he loved doing all the cheers and chants, the marching band, and the hot chocolate (did I mention it was freezing?). He couldn't understand why the people kept booing their own team. LSU "fans" can be fickle. It just reminded me again how "other"(DH's word for different) God is from us. His love is an everlasting love. His love has purpose; it is not a whim. In church today we listened to how we were adopted as sons in Christ, according to God's good pleasure (Ephesians 1). It spoke to me because I know with what purpose, love, devotion, and steadfastness we pursue our little girl. I know that we have loved her before we have met her, seen her face, heard about her history. Just a smile on my face today, not just because LSU pulled out a victory in the 4th quarter, but because I know God has a particular love and purpose for me, and our ever-growing family.

6 Monthiversary DTE- Random thoughts and updates

2008-11-14T11:13:00.001-06:00

So....6 months of having our paperwork in Ethiopia. The cravings have kicked in. The weird dreams have officially started. The pounds are creeping on. They don't call it paper-pregnancy for nothing! So, I've just been marinating this month (like a Thanksgiving turkey) in God's good promises. I've been learning alot about the life and ministry of George Mueller. I've been collecting girls clothes. (Thanks friends!) I've been attending Thanksgiving feasts and homeschool groups. I've visited with family from far faraway. It has been a good month of waiting, we are experiencing "the tree of life" stage (Proverbs 13.12). JP lost his first top tooth. He says it helps him whistle better. T is happy hiding or causing much mischief stating, "you felt it in the old trick!" No matter how many times we laugh and tell him its "you FELL for the old trick" he insists in saying it his way. Also overheard this morning around 6.15am...christopher softly calling "daddy!" (repeat about 6 times). JP encourages him, suggesting he call for mommy instead, since Dad was not making an appearance. T replied, "BECAUSE...Mommy does not get out of bed while it is still dark." True. True. We still have not named our little girl, so if ya wanna make suggestions, then do so in the comment:)

What are you...Chicken?

2008-10-16T17:21:00.000-05:00

We are now celebrating 5 months of having our dossier in Ethiopia. I just got word today that we have about 4-5 months left (longer than first expected). We also heard last week that our adoption expenses have gone up over $3500, making the total needed overwhelming to us. ADOPTION IS NOT FOR CHICKENS. It is not for the faint of heart. It is for fighters, for God-wrestlers. I was reminded this week about the story of Jacob, and how he wrestled with the Angel of the Lord, and said..."i will not let go until you bless me". God did bless Jacob, changing his name to "Israel" or "he who wrestles with God". He walked away with a limp. That is how i feel some days...like i've been wrestling with angels. We will not quit this. We may walk away limping, but we will hold on until God blesses us with bringing our little girl home.

Who ya gonna thank...G-O-D!!!

2008-09-23T14:21:00.001-05:00

Recently my oldest was promised a new Lego train station from one of his doting grandmothers. He waited by the front door, looking out the window, for it to be delivered..and waited...and waited. At church Sunday he pointed at the front steps of the stage which some would refer to as "the altar" during the prayer time at the end of the service. JP had never done this before, and pointed to the steps with such a sense of urgency like the way i look at a piece of cheesecake! So, the boys and i went to the steps to pray, while Dean, of course, was playing the guitar. JP said, "i want to pray that my package will come tomorrow!". We prayed for the swift delivery of the package, and i prayed a silent prayer that no sweet old lady would come down to pray with us and overhear our "urgent request"...we also prayed that God would help us to desire the things he desires. My heart is for Ethiopia this week. the sense of urgency on my heart is growing: to prepare, to bring her home, to give her a family. When JP got his package, he squealed with delight. His brother went rushing to his side and hugged him...they tore open the package. I asked JP who heard his prayer and, my TobyMac lovin' kid said-"G-O-D." I rejoice with friends who got the referral of their sweet girl today...and God hears my prayers as we look out the window waiting..hoping...dreaming of the day our sweet gift will be delivered home.

4 Months Down...5 to go?

2008-09-13T12:33:00.000-05:00

Hi friends! So, although I am about 13 months pregnant (since we started paperchasing for our adoption)...we still have at least 4 months, probobly 5, more to go. Of course, I am keeping myself busy with the boys, and all the hurricanes that insist on harassing us, as well as making sure that i am not giving into too many "pregnancy" cravings. The latest news from our program is that our trip will be shortened by about 1 day (good news for whoever is lucky enough to watch the boys while we are gone). We will also be staying at a guest house/bed & breakfast instead of the big Hilton. (Good news for us$$) That's about it here...

1st Day of 1st Grade

2008-08-15T09:09:00.001-05:00

JP was so excited today to start 1st Grade! What a big boy we have!

It's our 3rd Monthiversary!

2008-08-09T09:29:00.001-05:00

Ok, so our dossier has been in Ethiopia for 3 months...yeah! As of our last conference call, we are expecting our referral sometime in February. Of course, it could come earlier or later...

What have we been doing to pass all of our tme? Well, we went to Florida to visit the fam...had a blast. We ate a lot of Barnaby's pizza. We got a Camaro. We voted someone off an island. Cousins rode in a Model T. DH still had to mow the grass. But alas, good things can't last forever....the smell of the Bluebonnet swamp lured us home. Enjoy the pictures!

A little sip of seattle in Baton Rouge

2008-06-23T09:29:00.000-05:00

This week our good friend, Tarin, from Seattle, visited our flat blazing-hot sudsy city.... it was a breath of fresh air for us! We enjoyed showing her around our city: our house, the school, our church, the pool, our tiger...ok, LSU's tiger "Mike". Tarin experienced Baton Rouge: etoufee, beignets, and southern fried chicken, southern accents, and of course, the heat and humidity. We also went to Starbucks once to savor a sip of Seattle.

On June 9th we celebrated being 1 month DTE, and currently we are #45 for a referral (that we know of on our Agency's Yahoo Group). We are expecting a referral between mid-December and mid-April...we'll see as the time grows nearer. Enjoy the pictures....

"Well, Pinch my cheeks and call me a monkey's uncle..."

2008-05-19T08:52:00.001-05:00

".........This is ALOT of Legos!" This is a JP quote when opening up his birthday present from all the Leighows (LegoCity Police station). Yes, our JP is 6. I am starting to feel old, so it's time to break out my Justin (Timberlake) CD and dance.

His party was great, with friends from church, school and therepy. We enjoyed ice cream cones and Transformer cake. We wish you all could have been there!

The Lego police station, complete with jail cells w/ toilets and a break room for police officers w/coffee, has really got the boys asking lots of questions...like "why do bad guys not get privacy when they go to the bathroom?" Good question. So, we've had deep discussions about honoring God & mom & dad, a boy's duty to protect, and being a good guy...

In celebration of JP's birthday, I thought i'd share part of a note with you from JP's teacher, about our own "good guy": "JP is so delightful- his humor, mischievous smile and his willingness to share. He is so smart. You are wise to spend so much time teaching him. He is so respectful..."

Honor and duty aren't taught as much as they used to be. They are used more as ad slogans for military service than the duty of every boy, and future man. I thank God for my 2 future men, may they grow up to be modern-day knights, and may they always have privacy in the bathroom!

This bud's for you?!?

2008-05-14T10:30:00.000-05:00

I'd like to raise my Abita to toast all the "little" people who helped with our adoption....to the unnamed lady in {state undisclosed}....who (when we were switching our dossier from el salvador to ethiopia) was so obliging with our certifications. I will never forget the things she said like "i'm going to hook you up", and "you got a staple remover?" as well as "all a children need is some love". She made me laugh on a day when i desperately needed to and reminded me that at the heart of all the paperwork headaches it was just about bringing a child home.
So, as our dossier passed thru Memphis, Germany, and is now in Ethiopia, I raise my glass to you {undisclosed woman in my hometown}...may you be blessed...and help other children find a loving home, too.

Dossier to Ethiopia Today

2008-05-09T15:53:00.000-05:00

After 9 months of paperchasing, our dossier is headed to ethiopia. It was picked up in Virginia today around 3 pm... I will happily detail our adoption paperwork's journey halfway around the world in later days. Tonight we will party @ the Melting Pot to celebrate this adoption milestone as well as our upcoming 12th anniversary!!!